PM is one of those jobs you really learn best from doing, and it’s going to be different every time depending on the show and context….that’s unfortunate your tutor is being unhelpful and rude, is there anyone else who can mentor/help you? Don’t let it get to you. You’re a student so you are allowed to mistakes, and this should be a learning experience for you too. So don’t stress and remember to breathe!
Just remember that the PM has the big picture in mind. While everyone else is focused on their individual departments, you are the only one (except maybe the stage manager) who can see how all the parts have to fit and work together to get to that opening night deadline. Making those schedules and running those meetings are all geared towards the big picture and thinking ahead. Always keep that in mind, and share that big picture with the people on the team so that everyone is on the same page.
The other main piece of advice I would give, from my own mentor, is to insert yourself into every conversation. It’s all about keeping communication open and flowing. Making sure that people are not only talking to you, but also talking to each other. Again, so that everyone is on the same page and no unexpected surprises emerge. Seek out the information you need, don’t wait for it to come to you. It’s okay not to know everything, just say “I will get back to you on that” —then go find out what you need!
Finally, regarding the other students listening to you —remember that everything is a conversation. Or, everything STARTS as a conversation at least. It’s not about you telling them what to do, or worse, telling them “no”. Work together, and let them know you are there to help. It’s definitely tricky when you’re working with your classmates in an “authority” position, but don’t make it about that. Remember you’re all working on the same show —as PM, you facilitate and motivate that process:)
Also, it’s okay if you screw up, trust me. That is how you learn. Oh, and you ARE going to have a great time! Let me know how it goes or if you have any other questions. Good luck!